Well,I am back and stronger than ever. I had time to go to the Gym of Life and spend time with myself. Sometimes we tend to forget ourselves in the stream of things of life.

Let me tell you a story, I was in a relationship for a good while and I wasted a lot of time but I learned it was because I was not in the Gym as much as I needed to be. I had forgotten to keep my mind strong and strengthen my heart to keep things in perspective as to my life. You see I was worried about his life and he was concerned about mine, but not to the same degree.  So, I had to let it go before I really became unfit. 

Why is this Gym so important?  Well keep in mind that our minds must work in harmony with our hearts to make sound decisions on matters. If we just use our hearts we will sink fast because the emotional side of us will destroy us every time. Now, our minds alone will make us sometimes reason ourselves out of love or anything for that matter, so you see why we need to use them together.

I had a man tell me, I had a dream about you last night and he went on to tell me this dream. When he finished I told him every man in Orlando had that same dream. But was I trying to be funny?  No, but rather letting him know, just because I was by myself sex was not one of my problems. Because that is all he was thinking ,how can a women go without sex?  I told him like Jayz says I have 99 problems but that's not one. Do you get my point? As a man please come to me with something better than a teen-age line of that sort.

You see just because things did not turn out like I would have liked ,I used this time to consider some things I have heard about love.

Here are a few of the things I have heard:

1) Men cannot be trusted they are all the same. 

I responded by saying ,that's not true all men are not the same. And my experience will not ruin my being in love again. You see I can't change the past, but I can ruin my present time if I meet someone worrying about what if.

2) Stay by yourself girl that way you will not get hurt.

I replied, I have no intention of being alone forever. I cannot imagine not having someone to share a laugh with or a hug with. Sometimes the small things in life make my whole day change. Try it, because when we meet someone we don't try to marry them that day, but rather we get to know them or we should and spend quality time. We as women may not realize the person we are getting to know may have experienced the same hurt at one time we have. Men are very sensitive and only share there feelings with the walls. Give them time to open up don't pry.

3) Don't just stick to one man, play like they play.

Well, some men may play hard, but I play smart. I want as much loyalty as am going to give. If I play his game I become like him.  I know what I want. You see the choices I make today will  effect me tomorrow. So, patience is my friend and to be happy is a choice that requires effort at all times. You may say I was patient with my man and he still do all the same things that hurt me. If he kept on then, you lost sight of the whole purpose in being with him .Which was for love ,companionship and friendship. If you were the only one supplying these things, why do we stay? Happiness is enhanced by others, but does not depend on them. Thats where the Gym comes in. Strengthen that Heart and continue to Develop that Mind.

As I  conclude this is what I learned:

A) Love is strengthened by working through things together. But this takes two people not one willing party.

B) If I don't like something I can change it or change the way I view it.

C) I get lonely sometimes because of the wall I have built and perhaps torn down the bridges leading to more.

D) I had to perhaps experience what I did to appreciate the next decent man who may come into my life.

E) Also, all circumstances are the same to some degree, it just depends on how I handle it.

F) I was allowing fear to consume me in these challenging situations, because I was always asking will he do the same thing? Is he a liar too?  Once, I just flowed with it and expected nothing, the fear left and I was me again. Fear can make you miss out on life and all it has to offer.

G) So for all who have given up on love...  Love and you shall be loved. Everyone needs love.

So until next time keep  in mind, no matter what we are dealing with do not run from it will reappear so deal with it once and for all...

Believe in Yourself, Love and Life!