He now accuses me of thinking I am above his friends because of my degree. But he is just bringing up these things now. Keep in mind I had my degree when I met him and he had these same friends. My question is why now does this bother him? We never had this issue before. He was the the same with the children, did nothing but I continued to hang in there. He acts as though he is not married and has no family at all. Well, this past week-end his mother and him had a field day on me. He told me I make people feel uncomfortable and she agreed. She said to me that I want my husband to tell me he loves me but that his father has not said he loves her since they got married. Do I have to suffer for that?

Mistress, we also went to counseling and got nowhere, he had no idea we had a problem. All I could do was cry. However I am so tired now and do not know what to do.

A) I must give you credit for the time you take with your children, and the patience you give your husband.

I noticed in what you wrote you have no help or support in your marriage, however you too knew the type man you married and if I am wrong please let me know. The reason I say that is because we as women know the type of man we have, we just feel in time we can change him. We even notice the type of family background they come from and still pursue the man. And what happens? Well we get married and our life is miserable.

Think about this, you have a degree he does not, you seem family oriented he is not. Just these two things should have made you open up your eyes. Please don’t get things twisted in that I am saying if a man does not have a degree leave him alone, no,rather I am saying you must have something in common. I do not believe opposites attract.

Think about this, he likes meat you hate it, you want children he does not, you need affection and conversation he just needs sex. Can you see the point!

When you have the children he feels no obligation at all because he said he wanted no children.You love conversation he is very quiet and could care less if you say a word to him much less touch and desire to have him close to you. So when as a woman you need these things you cannot complain because you knew before hand the type of man he was. And of course in your mind he will change because your love is stronger enough to carry the two of you through. But does he change? Of course not! He knows you will change before he does and you will not leave him.

I sure hope and pray you will do the right thing for you and your children. Something to think about. Are you giving yourself the same time and love you give your children and your husband? If the answer is no then you need to start. Also, step back and look through the windows of your home and see if you are smiling and sitting on the sofa with your family if not where are you? If you are not there go to the place you see yourself at and be happy, you deserve it.

I know I had to make the trip once or twice.