Mistress Of Love

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Women, Have You Compromised Your Integrity?

It's been a long time since I actually shared information like this with you, however, it is necessary. The question being asked is very valid. The reason is that we as women get lost in men more times than none. Notice I did not say females... Women want to have good men in their lives and so often feel that they can change the personality of the person they are dealing with. You want so badly to make them see the qualities you possess and most time that is why they want to be with you, you’re different from anyone they have ever met. 

You prove to be a challenge to them. But have you noticed once you give in the interest wanes? Your the one trying to keep things going but he has moved on to the next prey. Keep in mind he has a lot of females to catch and you sit alone again. 

Let me tell you a story that happened to me and keep in mind I try to keep my stuff separate from the column. But this is important because I know for a fact there are good woman who know they have compromised there integrity for what they thought was love. 

Earlier this month I spoke with a male who invited me to a gathering I went with my sister and we had a great time. He asked me to stay the night with him, think about it if he knew me he would have know that is not my style. And did he really think a date to a show was worth a night with him?  Why do men think a dinner or show means SEX? And why do females make them think we as women are only worth a show or dinner? We will talk about that later.

I have a great deal of respect for myself. He tried the next night and sent text after text saying all the things a female would love to hear. Seems he never dealt with a woman. Some of things he said were about his sadness of the life he leads and I was very hurt for him. I tried to be encouraging to him with words that would make his spirit feel at ease. Funny thing, he would just keep sending these texts of how he loved me and even asked to marry me. Each day I had a text telling me the love he had for me and he would tell the world. Having the status he has if I were weak I would have been so sucked in. 

Ladies, was it flattering to have someone say such things of course it was, but was I going to go against my principles to satisfy him? Indeed not, I am the most important person and I love myself. Can you look in the mirror and tell yourself how important you are and no one will take your self respect and dignity from you? Males watch us and see how much of what we say we mean. We have cheapened womanhood ourselves and need to take a closer look at the males we allow in our lives. We don't have to look for a man, men will find us. Males are always on the watch for a female to sleep with. The male I was talking about has moved on to someone else so if I would have fallen for all the things that flowed from his mouth I would be alone and tarnished. He never cared about me if he did he would be still be  in  touch. But he ego is marred because he could not get what he wanted. But some female on the road is willing   to jump in his bed and make it right for him.

See, my point, SEX does not make a relationship but rather the getting to know that person and developing  things does. He really thought his talking about sex was going to make me melt. I never even knew him for him to know what would make me melt! 

Listen, stay true and next week we will talk more about these simple minded males and females who make it bad for us good men and women.  We will talk about how we can make it and stay strong,

Until next time!

ps. do not try to guess who he is; he's not worth the energy...

The Mistress!

What are your thoughts email me at: caramale11@gmail.com