Mistress Of Love

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Men Who Smoke Ganja All Day & The Women Who Take Care Of Them

As I write this I think of Dianna and Omar, for those of you who don't know them she was a professional woman who took care of her man.  Omar was a dancehall selector who believed he was the best ever.  Sometimes he made Dianna feel like a Queen and at other times like she was nothing at all.  It was this game that kept her wondering what her worth was.  Omar was a male that never grew up and like children, he was never  embarrassed by begging on a regular basis and Dianna always felt the need to give to him.   

Now lets talk about Gavin, who lives with his woman and wakes up smoking marijuana and goes to bed smoking marijuana.  She in turn works very hard, comes home picks up the children because he is too busy doing nothing to watch the children. Keep in mind he has computer skills that could support his family but he feels he cannot work for anyone.  So Lauren, works very hard and when she comes in he is at the door waiting to leave on business.  She is puzzled because he never has money from this. 

But are they the only couple like this?  No, we could really  name several who are like little boys pushing the shopping cart for their women in the store and when they get to the register they go to the car.  And no, he did not give her a dime for the groceries before he went to the car. When rent time comes he tells her every month his money is short and he will have something for her in a week and the only thing she sees that is weak is him. 

What about Indian?  No job, sitting all day at his friends store not ever asking for work, just out back smoking and thinking he is so creative giving ideas to all his friends about what his next plan is and it never happens.  I saw him and his woman in the store shopping for clothes and he was in tow like a puppy telling her and her daughter what clothes were nice.  Does he have money to shop?  No just with his surrogate mother/woman. It has to stop, put the Ganja down and grow the heck up.  You want to be called a man act like one. Stop preying on the weak women and get a real woman. Sorry, I forgot you are still a boy and cannot handle a real woman.

Women, please recognize that you are special and have a lot to offer.  More importantly you need to love you first and you will be able to see past these lazy boys a lot better.  Is it you feel you cannot be alone and need these men?   Is it the loving? All males have the same organs but it takes more than that to be a man!!!

He leaves you and travels to wherever he wants to go and you stay home and wait for him.  Why are you and the children still home or if you have no children why are you not invited?  Is he coming home to your house because he has no name on the lease and therefore no responsibility?  I think its funny a grown person not caring that he has no place to call his own. Real men would have established themselves with something to offer you and his children. But he still has his ganja right?   If a woman were to just take advantage of a man and say she will be back after a week of traveling he would die! All his friends would know because he would be whining and crying to them.   

I guess the point I am making is that all these lazy smoking men  need to grow up and take control of  their lives.  Be more of a contribution to yourself  and  those around you.  Ladies work to be better and you will find real men.  Not the little boys who want  rides, food and places to live, come on ! Do you want to brag about your man and what you are building together or let people know I just got my man some clothes and paid all our bills so we could cook and eat. All the while he smokes and smiles about what a good woman he has.  Isn't it about time you could truthfully say you had a good man? 

The Mistress!

caramale11@gmail.com 

Responses:

Dear Mistress of Love,

I wouldn't blame their laziness on the ganja. That's them whether they smoke, drink or do nothing. Other than that I agree and I see it all the time.

Dear Mistress,

Thank you for breaking it down from a Real Woman's perspective. The men you described could not handle your reality.  Keep on seeing the world through the eyes of reality.  Sometimes the I and I does not equate to two eyes, seeing things for what they truly are. Keep on talking, because our sister are listening.  
 

Another sister with vision.

Dear Mistress,

I feel that you should only talk about things you have experienced because this is not a real problem that exists.  Men who smoke ganja are not hurting anyone and are peaceful people.  The women are not complaining so stick to what you know.

From a man who knows.

 

Dear Mistress,

All I can say is 'WOW!'

Sharon in NY